The Weight of Parental Dreams: Interpreting Fears of Failure

Dreaming of your child failing can evoke strong emotions and concerns about parenting. Such dreams often mirror the deep-seated anxieties many parents face regarding their children's futures. In moments of worry, the subconscious mind processes these fears, sometimes translating them into vivid dreams.

According to traditional interpretations, particularly those rooted in the teachings of famous dream interpreter Ibni Sirin, dreams are reflections of one's waking life, encompassing both aspirations and apprehensions. If you have found yourself troubled by visions of your child struggling or not living up to expectations, this may represent not just your fears but also your hopes for your child's success and fulfillment. It's essential to reflect on the underlying themes of these dreams, as they can offer valuable insights into your relationship with your child and the current dynamics you share.

By exploring these dreams, we create a space for understanding and growth—not just for ourselves, but for our children as well.

• Dreaming of your child failing often reflects your anxieties regarding their future and well-being.
• These dreams can symbolize a need for greater connection and understanding between parent and child.
• Such dreams remind parents to support and nurture their children's aspirations instead of projecting fears onto them.

Symbols

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  • Nonsense:
  • Foolish talk:
  • High tides:

    (Ocean) In a dream, swimming in troubled waters or high tides means adversities, or having to face a strong opponent.

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  • Gems of the eyes:

    (Children)

  • Little boy:

    (Little boy) In a dream, a child carried in one’s arms means responsibility, distress and difficulties. A teenage child represents glad tidings or dispelling one’s worries. If one sees a beautiful looking teenage child entering a town or descending from the skies or appearing from beneath the ground in a dream, it means that the glad tidings will take effect shortly.

    Seeing a mature child in a dream means power and superiority. If one sees himself as a child learning in school in a dream, it means that he will repent of a common sin he is used to commit. If one sees one of the renowned people of knowledge sitting in a kindergarten and learning along with other children in a dream, it means that he will shift to ignorance, lose his rank, or that financial changes will affect his living conditions.

    If one sees himself receiving instructions like a child in a dream, it means that he will receive an inheritance from his mother. If one sees himself as a newborn child in a dream, it means that he will become wealthy and prosper. If a young boy sees himself in a dream as a child, it has a negative meaning.

    If a sick person sees himself as a child in a dream, it means his death. If one sees himself as a child being reprimanded in a dream, it means that he will be conquered. In a dream, if one looks in a mirror and sees his face to be that of a child, and if his wife is pregnant, it means that she will beget a son who will look like his father.

    Carrying a baby child in a dream means distress and burdens. A child in a dream represents a weak enemy who sometime shows friendliness and at other times demonstrates his enmity. If one sees that his wife has just delivered children who are playing around him in a dream, it means distress or misfortune and the consequences could be either good or bad.

    Carrying a child in a dream means managing an inheritance or a financial investment. If an elderly person sees himself roaming as a little child in a dream, it means that he will commit an act of ignorance or lose his dignity, ideals or sense of honor. On the other hand, if such an elderly person who sees himself in a dream as a little child is suffering from depression or financial difficulties or health problems, then it means relief from distress and good health and that he will become free from his sins, like the day his mother gave birth to him.

    If one sees that he has a little child who disdains from coming near his father in the dream, it means financial promotion and enjoyment of one’s life. If one sees a little child screaming in his lap in a dream, it means that he plays a string instrument. Children in a dream also could mean either sorrow and pain or happiness and joy.

    If they are one’s own children in the dream, then they mean temptation with money. Children in a dream also could mean contentment with little or loss of one’s means to earn his livelihood or they could mean money or marriage or a flourishing business. Bereavement of a child in a dream means the opposite in real life.

    It also means rejoicing, reunions, pleasures and earning respect. Bereavement of a child in a dream is sometimes interpreted to portray an intention of one’s children or wife to separate from the family. A little male child in a dream represents worries, responsibilities, hard work, catering to ignorant people or dealing with trivial and time wasting people.

    If a prisoner sees himself carrying a little girl in his dream, it means that he will be released from his prison. If one who is going through hard times sees himself holding a little girl in a dream, it means that his adversities will be lifted. If he is poor, it means that he will thrive for success and the little girl then represents his glad tidings.

  • Young boy:

    (Young boy) Seeing a young boy in a dream means receiving glad tidings. Begetting a boy in a dream means worries, burdens or sickness, while giving birth to a girl in a dream means relief from distress or easing of one’s difficulties. Carrying a young boy in a dream means carrying burdens.

    Giving birth to a boy in a dream also could mean having a helper. A beautiful looking young boy in a dream also signifies good luck and victory over one’s enemy. Seeing a beautiful looking boy in a dream means that beautiful and pleasant things will take place in one’s life, or it could mean satisfying one’s needs.

    If one is called a teenager in a dream, it signifies the necessity to take a ritual ablution, or that something good or bad may take place in wakefulness.

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  • Frailty:

    Feebleness in a dream means strength. However, if one sees himself debilitated or emaciated in the dream, then it means weakness in his faith, failure to properly observe his religious obligations, or it could mean sterility, impotence, or sorrow and distress.

  • Mourning the dead:

    (Mourning; Wailing; Yowling) Lamenting and desiring something in a dream connotes evil. Lamentation in a dream also represents a preacher or it could represent a putrid odor that comes from opening the door of a filthy lavatory. Lamentation in a dream also represents dogs’yowling, drum beating, the ringing sound of cymbals, or it could mean a wedding.

    Sitting in a place where people are lamenting and mourning their dead in a dream means that an ominous evil may take place in that locality, or perhaps it could mean separation between families and friends. If one sees himself mourning a deceased person in a dream, it means that harm will come to him from the descendents or family of the departed person. Lamenting with great pain and sorrow and mourning over a deceased person in a dream also means waking up to a great joy and happiness.

    Lamenting in a dream also means adversities which are driven by the person who is lamenting. It also means going astray, or it could denote a flute, as the flute denotes lamenting in a dream. Lamenting in a dream also represents the work of ignorance.

  • Wailing:

    (Mourning; Wailing; Yowling) Lamenting and desiring something in a dream connotes evil. Lamentation in a dream also represents a preacher or it could represent a putrid odor that comes from opening the door of a filthy lavatory. Lamentation in a dream also represents dogs’yowling, drum beating, the ringing sound of cymbals, or it could mean a wedding.

    Sitting in a place where people are lamenting and mourning their dead in a dream means that an ominous evil may take place in that locality, or perhaps it could mean separation between families and friends. If one sees himself mourning a deceased person in a dream, it means that harm will come to him from the descendents or family of the departed person. Lamenting with great pain and sorrow and mourning over a deceased person in a dream also means waking up to a great joy and happiness.

    Lamenting in a dream also means adversities which are driven by the person who is lamenting. It also means going astray, or it could denote a flute, as the flute denotes lamenting in a dream. Lamenting in a dream also represents the work of ignorance.

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  • Incomplete Job:

    (Unfinished business) An incomplete job in a dream signifies joblessness, inactivity, indolence, or it could mean an unattainable desire for leadership. An incomplete job in a dream also means despair. DICTIONARY OF DREAMS 223

  • Unfinished business:
  • Laziness:
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  • Teenage boy:

    (Teenage boy) An unknown young man in a dream represents an enemy. If the young man is known in the dream, then whatever strength, harshness, weaknesses, deceit, perfidy, or character he displays, they denote the same character in wakefulness. Walking behind an unknown young man in a dream means pursuing one’s enemy and conquering him.

    If one meets an unknown young man whom he dislikes in a dream, it means that such an enemy will surface and people will abhor him. If one happens to like him in the dream, then it means that he will face an enemy whom most people like and sympathize with. If a young man sees himself turned into an old person in a dream, it means that he will suffer major losses in his life.

    Ayoung man or a teenager in a dream mostly represents an enemy, for a teenager rarely respects or heeds the advice of his peers. A young man in a dream also represents deceit, betrayal, energy, or stubbornness, though he also could represent blessings and gratitude.

  • Pubescence:
  • Teenage girl:

    (Teenage girl) A young girl in a dream represents an enemy however she may look. Seeing a well dressed and pleasingly adorned young woman in a dream means hearing pleasing news coming from an unexpected person. Seeing a young and a beautiful looking female servant in a dream means blessings, a favor, joy and festivities.

    In a dream, seeing an unknown young girl is more advantageous than seeing a known one. The strongest in meaning are those teenage girls who are presentable, well mannered and beautifully dressed. If she is seen dressed with modesty in the dream, then she represents goodness, chastity, discreteness, and following the correct religious conduct.

    If she adorns herself and plays up her charms in the dream, then such goodness will be public. If a young girl sees herself as an old woman in a dream, it means that she will live with modesty and preserve her chastity. If an old woman sees herself turned young again in the dream, it means regaining her strength, sexual desire and fertility.

    If she engages in lawful sexual intercourse in marriage, it denotes strong religious adherence. If she engages in sexual intercourse with someone without marriage in the dream, then her dream represents her love for the world and attachment to its glitters. If one sees an old woman turned young in a dream, then the above explanation becomes stronger.

    However, if one is poor, it means that her basic needs will be secured. If one has lost her chances in this world, it means that she will have a new opportunity, or if she is sick, it means that she will recover from her illness. Seeing a young girl frowning in a dream means that one may hear disturbing news.

    If she looks emaciated, then one’s dream denotes poverty. If she is naked in the dream, it means business losses and defamation. Marrying a virgin teenage girl in a dream means wealth.

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  • Little boy:

    (Little boy) In a dream, a child carried in one’s arms means responsibility, distress and difficulties. A teenage child represents glad tidings or dispelling one’s worries. If one sees a beautiful looking teenage child entering a town or descending from the skies or appearing from beneath the ground in a dream, it means that the glad tidings will take effect shortly.

    Seeing a mature child in a dream means power and superiority. If one sees himself as a child learning in school in a dream, it means that he will repent of a common sin he is used to commit. If one sees one of the renowned people of knowledge sitting in a kindergarten and learning along with other children in a dream, it means that he will shift to ignorance, lose his rank, or that financial changes will affect his living conditions.

    If one sees himself receiving instructions like a child in a dream, it means that he will receive an inheritance from his mother. If one sees himself as a newborn child in a dream, it means that he will become wealthy and prosper. If a young boy sees himself in a dream as a child, it has a negative meaning.

    If a sick person sees himself as a child in a dream, it means his death. If one sees himself as a child being reprimanded in a dream, it means that he will be conquered. In a dream, if one looks in a mirror and sees his face to be that of a child, and if his wife is pregnant, it means that she will beget a son who will look like his father.

    Carrying a baby child in a dream means distress and burdens. A child in a dream represents a weak enemy who sometime shows friendliness and at other times demonstrates his enmity. If one sees that his wife has just delivered children who are playing around him in a dream, it means distress or misfortune and the consequences could be either good or bad.

    Carrying a child in a dream means managing an inheritance or a financial investment. If an elderly person sees himself roaming as a little child in a dream, it means that he will commit an act of ignorance or lose his dignity, ideals or sense of honor. On the other hand, if such an elderly person who sees himself in a dream as a little child is suffering from depression or financial difficulties or health problems, then it means relief from distress and good health and that he will become free from his sins, like the day his mother gave birth to him.

    If one sees that he has a little child who disdains from coming near his father in the dream, it means financial promotion and enjoyment of one’s life. If one sees a little child screaming in his lap in a dream, it means that he plays a string instrument. Children in a dream also could mean either sorrow and pain or happiness and joy.

    If they are one’s own children in the dream, then they mean temptation with money. Children in a dream also could mean contentment with little or loss of one’s means to earn his livelihood or they could mean money or marriage or a flourishing business. Bereavement of a child in a dream means the opposite in real life.

    It also means rejoicing, reunions, pleasures and earning respect. Bereavement of a child in a dream is sometimes interpreted to portray an intention of one’s children or wife to separate from the family. A little male child in a dream represents worries, responsibilities, hard work, catering to ignorant people or dealing with trivial and time wasting people.

    If a prisoner sees himself carrying a little girl in his dream, it means that he will be released from his prison. If one who is going through hard times sees himself holding a little girl in a dream, it means that his adversities will be lifted. If he is poor, it means that he will thrive for success and the little girl then represents his glad tidings.

  • Gems of the eyes:

    (Children)

  • Greenhouse:

    (Greenhouse; Hotbed) In a dream, a nursery represents profits, annual return or a fertile woman. Owning or attending a nursery in a dream means victory, prosperity, marriage, acquiring knowledge, training in arts, or repent¬ ing from sin and harvesting the fruits of one’s repentance. If the fruits of one’s plants turn into gold or silver in one’s dream, it means either benefits, profits, or that a disease will impair the growth of one’s plants, or it could mean unsalability of one’s crop.

Embracing the Dream: Practical Steps for Parents

• Engage in Open Communication

  One of the most powerful ways to tackle your fears about your child's future is through open communication. Share your dreams and fears with your child. This process not only helps you feel connected but also encourages your child to express their feelings and aspirations.

  Create an environment where your child feels safe discussing their struggles, goals, and worries. This may also involve active listening: giving them your full attention, acknowledging their feelings, and validating their experiences. By fostering this connection, you can help alleviate your own anxiety while giving your child the support they need to thrive.

• Reassess Your Expectations

  Sometimes, dreams about your child failing can stem from high expectations that come from societal pressures. Reflect on whether the goals you've set for your child are truly in line with their unique capabilities and aspirations. Each child has their own strengths and weaknesses; allowing them to explore their passions and interests can lead to a more fulfilling life.

  Encourage your child to pursue their dreams, whatever they may be, and remember: it's perfectly okay for those aspirations to differ from your own.

• Seek Counsel and Support

  If these dreams are deeply troubling, consider seeking support from a trusted friend or counselor. Sharing and discussing these fears can provide clarity and new perspectives. Professional guidance can also be invaluable, helping you understand your anxiety and its implications for your parenting style.

  By addressing these worries with someone knowledgeable, it allows you to relate to your child in a manner that encourages growth, rather than stifles it due to fear.

• Practice Mindfulness and Stress Management

  Integrating mindfulness techniques into your daily routine can significantly affect how you handle your fears and anxieties. Practices such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or even yoga can ground you. These activities promote emotional balance and clarity, providing a robust foundation that can help you approach your dreams with a sense of calm.

  Regularly practicing mindfulness can help you reflect on the deeper meanings of your dreams without the immediate panic that initial fears might invoke.

• Embrace Learning Experiences

  In both life and dreams, failure often is intertwined with growth and learning. Teach your child that setbacks are natural and part of the journey toward success. Instill in them the idea that challenges can be opportunities for growth.

  By approaching failure as a learning experience, both you and your child can focus on creating a supportive atmosphere where mistakes are allowed and viewed as stepping stones to future achievements.

FAQs

• What does it mean to dream about my child failing in school?

  Dreaming of your child failing in school often signifies your worries about their academic success and general well-being. This may reflect your anxieties as a parent about their performance, whether it be academically or in life. Such dreams can also indicate the pressure you might be feeling to support them in their endeavors. It's important to examine these feelings and to communicate with your child about their own perceptions of school and success.

• Can dreaming of my child failing indicate my own insecurities?

  Yes, dreaming of your child failing can reflect your own insecurities and fears about your parenting skills. It might symbolize doubts about your ability to guide them positively in life. Recognizing these emotions can help you address them, perhaps by seeking guidance from trusted friends or professionals who can provide reassurance and advice.

• How should I react after having such a dream?

  After experiencing a dream about your child failing, it's beneficial to take some time to reflect on the feelings it evoked. Consider discussing your emotional state with your child if it feels appropriate, as it can open up avenues for deeper communication. Write down your feelings or talk about them with someone you trust. Engaging in self-care and mindfulness can also help mitigate the anxiety triggered by these dreams.

• Are dreams of a child's failure a common occurrence for parents?

  Yes, many parents experience dreams about their children's failures, particularly during times of stress or transitional periods in the child's life. Such dreams are often manifestations of the pressures of parenting, reflecting deep-seated hopes and fears regarding their children's futures. Understanding that these dreams are common can reduce feelings of isolation and anxiety.

• What can I do to prevent these dreams?

  While you cannot directly prevent dreams, you can take steps to manage the fears and anxieties that may lead to them. Fostering a supportive relationship with your child, engaging in open communication, and managing stress through mindfulness can create a more positive mental state. This can lessen the likelihood of recurring anxiety-laden dreams.

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